By Aaron Guyett
I understand that my health is declining, because I feel physical lethargic and sleepy, and my doctor is telling me I have these issues.
I feel sad, depressed, angry, and frustrated that I have these physical obstacles that are keeping my from enjoying a satisfying and improved quality of life.
I am not walking, working out, eating well, or sleeping well, and my time is primarily devoted to work or family.
These three statements above stipulate my attitude, which is doubtful about the opportunity to improve my quality of life; therefore, I will not be pursuing a change, and I am a victim.
“An attitude is a mental state that exerts influence over an individual’s behaviors. Attitudes have three components: (1) a cognitive component, which refers to a concept; (2) an affective component, which is emotion; and (3) a behavioral component, which is the readiness to act.”
One small change in attitude, may lead to bigger changes in systemic issues throughout society.
If obstacles were seen as opportunities for growth, development, and life-experience that produce courage and hope.
If conflict was seen as a rich relationship aspect that built integrity, honesty, trust, communication, and a chance to be open to new ideas, while still remaining passionate about our own ideas.
If commitment were not just a good-intention, but a sound call to great accountability and epic forgiveness.
If hard work, focused intensity, and patient endurance were values that drove the positive attitudes of us all toward something bigger than ourselves.
My friend illustrated at the beginning would no longer be a victim, but a person that takes joy in the arduous, but life-giving process of change.
 Stewart L. Tubbs, Systems Approach to Small Group Interaction, Boston, MA: McGraw Hill, 2011, p. 103.