Levels of Change
- Environmental
- I don’t want to be in this level. If I am, I want my persona to establish perfect environments for me to successfully change.
- Behaviors
- Change your behavior, and it will probably creep back in.
- Capabilities
- What do you think you can or can’t do.
- Beliefs
- Getting better results if we can change these.
- Values
- Establish some good ones, and lose the bad ones, and you are well on your way!
- Identity
- This is where it all stems from.
*see my persona below from past to present and how I am changing it! J
4 Steps of Learning and Doing
- Unconscious Incompetence
- Conscious Incompetence
- Conscious Competence
- Unconscious Competence-I created the perfect persona for me to achieve this in all areas of my life, through God and my own personal choices.
Persona
This is my interpersonal look so I know what I am working with and how I can change. It is a bit gnarly. It will get better, I promise! J
> 1-Top 5-10 most negative life impacting moments in your
> a. Imprint Period-Sexually molested by a friend; real fever-dreams of the devil, which made me paralyzed; Dad was too busy with work and school; many friends who were negative influences; I felt a rebellion start to blossom in my childhood; Disconnected from others and couldn’t explain it, easily angered and when angered did not handle it well
> b. Modeling Period-Cast out of the “cool” group, because I did not join in my “friends” illegal activities; Started drinking too young
> c. Socialization Period-Stopped caring about life; severely questioned God, which eventually led to me walking away from Him; Created a minor criminal career and got away with it -Grew up too fast in the Marine Corps; worshipped death and violence; saw a lot of evil come from me and happen in front of me…laughed about it; Started having sex as a game; Cheated on girls; Used women as objects; disrespected life and God; Fought friends
> e. Last 5 years-drank too much, fought too much, cheated on my ex-wife while I was married more than once (three times to be exact; stopped listening to God; Enjoyed violence, Got a felony assault with a deadly weapon
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> 2. Top 5-10 most positive life impacting moments
> a. Imprint Period -Started my love for nature, God, and life; Got good grades naturally; Enjoyed activity; Enjoyed reading; Enjoyed creating
> b. Modeling Period -Found true friends; Started dating girls;
> c. Socialization Period -Lettered in sports (soccer, football, wrestling); performed well in plays; Received Excellent grades where I was challenged and I liked the teacher and subject; Involved with the Catholic Church and got baptized and confirmed
-Performed well in the Marine Corps, fought for our country well, sacrificed much, made it through toughest situations I have ever witnessed; did well in many competitions; Received high praise and awards for doing well in the Marine Corps
> e. in 20’s-Found Divine LOVE with God; Found unconditional love with wife (after I cheated I resolved to love her no matter what, well…she became unfaithful and I still love her, we won’t ever be together, but I loved her through all of my issues and problems as well as hers); created a very fast-growing, profitable company; learned financial essentials through parents, mentors and The Word; Went to India and many other places, enjoying the freedom and spirituality of the travel
What do people think about me when I am not there?
Comment or email me your answers, I am interested to know…
What do I want to be, do, and have, so people will think and see me for whom I want to be?
You will see…
I write these PERSONA CREATORS in present tense as if they were already achieved:
Be-I am a respectful, loving, challenging, and encouraging spiritual leader in my family, business, and social groups, an owner of a globally successful personal training business that allows anyone with access to the internet to create good holistic change in their life, an owner of a successful personal training company with a team of trainers and a strategic share of the personal training market in Orange County.
Do-I challenge and encourage others to achieve what they want in their lives.
I serve others so they may know, love, and believe in Christ.
I travel around the world in service, business, and pleasure. It is all adventurous, challenging, life-changing, and exciting!
Have-
I have a loving and faithful family.
I have a globally successful personal training business that allows anyone with access to the Internet to create good holistic change in his or her life.
I have a successful personal training company with a team of trainers and a strategic share of the personal training market in Orange County.
I have no debt.
I have 1 year of income in my savings.
I have a house in Southern California on the ocean.
I have a 50-foot racing sailboat.
…just a start, I will and you can keep this list going. Created newly everyday even. Look at it in a month or a week, and see what keeps popping up.
Voice
How do people perceive your communication?
“Be careful what you think because you might say it, be careful what you say because you might do it, be careful what you do because that becomes your character, and thus dictates your life.”
1. As I establish my Persona, I walk out my
a. SMART Goals with an
b. Emotional/Motivational Reason and your
c. Old bad habits Changing into new good habits
- Career-
- I am an owner of an online and offline personal training and nutrition coaching business, which enables people with access to the internet worldwide or people in Orange County to conquer challenges in order to reach fitness and wellness in all areas of their life.
- I want to help people that have had challenges like me or just want to feel fulfillment and success. I want them to see their strength, ignore their weakness, make the choice today, and change!
- Bad: I don’t have a good business accountability person. Good: My accountability person is an outstanding businessman and walks out an a beautiful adventurous life with his family, and God. Bad: I didn’t have trust, faithfulness, and awareness of God’s plan. Good: I trust in God, have faith in Him, pray daily, meditate daily, and plan strategy often to accomplish spiritual leadership.
- Family-
- I have an incredible, blossoming relationship with my significant other, and our family.
- I want to feel a reciprocal loving and blossoming relationship not only with my future wife, but also with my future children.
- Bad: I didn’t follow God’s rules I followed my own. Good: I read the Bible daily and follow His time-tested advice. Bad: I didn’t have a high enough respect for some women. Good: I am honest, open, respectful, and righteous to all women, especially my wife. Bad: I didn’t have trust, faithfulness, and awareness of God’s plan. Good: I trust in God, have faith in Him, pray daily, meditate daily, and plan strategy often to accomplish spiritual leadership.
- Relationships-
- I am a spiritual leader in my marriage, family, business, and social environments everyday.
- I want to feel a reciprocal loving and blossoming relationship with all of my friends and business relationships.
- Bad: I didn’t follow God’s rules I followed my own. Good: I read the Bible daily and follow His time-tested advice. Bad: I didn’t have trust, faithfulness, and awareness of God’s plan. Good: I trust in God, have faith in Him, pray daily, meditate daily, and plan strategy often to accomplish spiritual leadership.
- Personal Growth & Development-
- I am a spiritual leader in my marriage, family, business, and social environments everyday.
- I want to be able to refine myself so that I may refine others.
- Bad: I didn’t follow God’s rules I followed my own. Good: I read the Bible daily and follow His time-tested advice. Bad: I didn’t have trust, faithfulness, and awareness of God’s plan. Good: I trust in God, have faith in Him, pray daily, meditate daily, and plan strategy often to accomplish spiritual leadership.
- Health & Fitness-
- I am a spiritual leader in my marriage, family, business, and social environments everyday.
- I want to feel a reciprocal loving and blossoming relationship not only with my future wife, but also with my future children.
- Bad: I don’t workout consistently Good: I am disciplined and diligent in my workouts. Bad: I didn’t have a personal trainer. Good: I have an incredible personal trainer that knows my needs and pushes me beyond. Bad: I didn’t have trust, faithfulness, and awareness of God’s plan. Good: I trust in God, have faith in Him, pray daily, meditate daily, plan strategy to develop awareness and walk it out for Him.
- Spirituality-
- I am a spiritual leader in my marriage, family, business, and social environments everyday.
- I want to feel a reciprocal loving and blossoming relationship with God.
- Bad: I didn’t follow God’s rules I followed my own. Good: I read the Bible daily and follow His time-tested advice. Bad: I didn’t have trust, faithfulness, and awareness of God’s plan. Good: I trust in God, have faith in Him, pray daily, meditate daily, and plan strategy often to accomplish spiritual leadership.
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